{"id":850,"date":"2017-01-28T11:00:57","date_gmt":"2017-01-28T10:00:57","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.italianministries.org\/en\/?p=850"},"modified":"2017-02-10T16:20:55","modified_gmt":"2017-02-10T15:20:55","slug":"10-things-missionaries-wont-tell-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.italianministries.org\/en\/10-things-missionaries-wont-tell-you\/","title":{"rendered":"10 Things Missionaries Won\u2019t Tell You"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>[et_pb_section admin_label=&#8221;section&#8221;][et_pb_row admin_label=&#8221;row&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243;][et_pb_text admin_label=&#8221;Testo&#8221; background_layout=&#8221;light&#8221; text_orientation=&#8221;left&#8221; use_border_color=&#8221;off&#8221; border_color=&#8221;#ffffff&#8221; border_style=&#8221;solid&#8221;]<\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Being a missionary is hard work. Everybody knows that. But the things we think of as the hard parts \u2013 lack of modern amenities, exposure to disease, and the like \u2013 only begin to scratch the surface of the difficulties of real missionary life. Often, it is the things left unsaid that really begin to erode the passion and soul of a missionary. Here are just a few of those things\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n<h4 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">1. THEY DON\u2019T HAVE THE TIME OR ENERGY TO WRITE<span id=\"a1ca976e-35f4-4d43-bb73-8f69dcb54e7a\" class=\"GINGER_SOFTWARE_mark\">\u2026<\/span>BUT THEY DO IT FOR YOU.<\/span><\/h4>\n<p class=\"p1\"><a class=\"lightbox\" href=\"http:\/\/www.adammosley.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/01.jpg\" data-group=\"group4\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-2877 size-medium\" src=\"http:\/\/www.adammosley.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/01-300x168.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"168\" border=\"0\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<h6 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">WHAT THEY SAY<\/span><\/h6>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><em>Have you read my latest newsletter?<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<h6 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">WHAT THEY WANT TO SAY<\/span><\/h6>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Newsletters, blog posts, website updates \u2013 all the \u201cexperts\u201d tell me that I need to be sending you fresh content on a regular basis so you won\u2019t forget about me. But here\u2019s the thing<span id=\"7d0836d9-9a80-43a6-8556-9c4d3b69e9c0\" class=\"GINGER_SOFTWARE_mark\">\u2026<\/span>writing is\u00a0<em>hard<\/em>, especially for those who aren\u2019t natural writers. You know what else is hard? HTML, CSS, PHP, and a bunch of other tech-geek stuff that you have to learn about just to make a decent-looking website or email. I really want to tell you what\u2019s going on, but it\u2019s hard to turn\u00a0<span id=\"6dfabed3-a08a-4e03-b35e-dbdba642d990\" class=\"GINGER_SOFTWARE_mark\">out gripping<\/span>narratives while I have a sick child asleep in my lap. And if I have to look up how to code a \u201cmailto\u201d link one more time, I\u2019m going to scream!<\/span><\/p>\n<h4 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">2. FACEBOOK \u201cLIKES\u201d DON\u2019T PAY THE BILLS.<\/span><\/h4>\n<p class=\"p2\"><a class=\"lightbox\" href=\"http:\/\/www.adammosley.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/02.jpg\" data-group=\"group4\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-2878\" src=\"http:\/\/www.adammosley.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/02-300x168.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"168\" border=\"0\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<h6 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">WHAT THEY SAY<\/span><\/h6>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><em>Thank you so much for the encouragement!<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<h6 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">WHAT THEY WANT TO SAY<\/span><\/h6>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">I\u2019m glad that you liked my Facebook status. I really am. The thing is, when I say we need $1,200 by the end of the week to pay the school fees for orphaned children, I\u2019m talking about actual dollars and actual need. Contrary to the rumors, Bill Gates doesn\u2019t donate a dollar for every Like. That part is up to you. So, the next time you Like my status, consider sending a few bucks my way too.<\/span><\/p>\n<h4 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">3. THEY ASK FOR MONEY BECAUSE THEY HAVE NO CHOICE.<\/span><\/h4>\n<p class=\"p2\"><a class=\"lightbox\" href=\"http:\/\/www.adammosley.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/03.jpg\" data-group=\"group4\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-2879\" src=\"http:\/\/www.adammosley.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/03-300x168.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"168\" border=\"0\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<h6 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">WHAT THEY SAY<\/span><\/h6>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><em>I\u2019m trusting God to provide, and I\u2019m so thankful for our donors.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<h6 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">WHAT THEY WANT TO SAY<\/span><\/h6>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Lest you think #2 sounded a little whiny and money-hungry, you should know that I truly\u00a0<em>despise<\/em>\u00a0asking for money. I always have. And now I have to ask for it almost\u00a0<em>all the time<\/em>. Even when I\u2019m not asking for it, I\u2019m\u00a0<em>thinking<\/em>\u00a0about asking for it. There are never enough funds to do all the good I\u2019m trying to do, and I live with a nagging feeling that the one person I\u00a0<em>don\u2019t<\/em>\u00a0ask is the one who would have written the big check. So, when I ask for money, know that I do so with fear and trembling.<\/span><\/p>\n<h4 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">4.\u00a0YOU\u2019LL NEVER HEAR\u00a0ABOUT THEIR WORST DAYS.<\/span><\/h4>\n<p class=\"p1\"><a class=\"lightbox\" href=\"http:\/\/www.adammosley.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/04.jpg\" data-group=\"group4\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-2882\" src=\"http:\/\/www.adammosley.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/04-300x168.jpg\" alt=\"worst-days\" width=\"300\" height=\"168\" border=\"0\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<h6 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">WHAT THEY SAY<\/span><\/h6>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><em>Please pray for me. It has been a challenging week.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<h6 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">WHAT THEY WANT TO SAY<\/span><\/h6>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Things are pretty bad here. If I told you what\u2019s really going on, you would either come rescue me, or think I was exaggerating. If you heard some of the things I\u2019ve said out loud, you might question my salvation. If you knew some of the thoughts I\u2019ve had rattling around in my head, you might question\u00a0<span id=\"ba629cbf-dca0-4715-af45-16bee540e36d\" class=\"GINGER_SOFTWARE_mark\">my<em>sanity<\/em><\/span>. Sometimes good days are hard to come by, but I don\u2019t dare tell you the worst. If I did, you would probably tell me to throw in the towel.<\/span><\/p>\n<h4 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">5. THEY NEED A VACATION<span id=\"a4c81a1a-1b71-48c4-8ed3-040eab316980\" class=\"GINGER_SOFTWARE_mark\">\u2026<\/span>BUT WON\u2019T TELL YOU IF THEY TAKE ONE.<\/span><\/h4>\n<p class=\"p1\"><a class=\"lightbox\" href=\"http:\/\/www.adammosley.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/05.jpg\" data-group=\"group4\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-2890\" src=\"http:\/\/www.adammosley.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/05-300x168.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"168\" border=\"0\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<h6 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">WHAT THEY SAY<\/span><\/h6>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><em>I just need a time of refreshing.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<h6 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">WHAT THEY WANT TO SAY<\/span><\/h6>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">After 2 or 3 years of hard work, most people feel like they deserve a little break. Take the family to the beach. Visit a theme park, a national park, or Park City. I would\u00a0<em>love<\/em>\u00a0a vacation, but honestly, I feel guilty \u201cpampering\u201d myself, rather than putting all my time and resources into the ministry. On top of that, I know some people will judge me if my vacation is \u201ctoo nice.\u201d If I scrape and save pennies for 5\u00a0<span id=\"47e63491-95c4-4200-8d98-3a50287b35a3\" class=\"GINGER_SOFTWARE_mark\">years so<\/span>\u00a0I can spend a week on an exotic island, you\u2019ll never hear about it, because I can\u2019t handle the snarky, \u201cIt must be nice\u201d comments (the ones you\u2019ll say to my face), or, \u201cMy donations paid for your vacation\u201d (which you\u2019ll think, but not say out\u00a0<span id=\"2dae726d-831c-47dd-b9e9-c64c8f5ccb3e\" class=\"GINGER_SOFTWARE_mark\">lout<\/span>\u00a0\u2013 at least not to me). So, I keep some great stuff to myself for fear of being judged.<\/span><\/p>\n<h4 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">6. HOSTING TEAMS IS A NIGHTMARE.<\/span><\/h4>\n<p class=\"p1\"><a class=\"lightbox\" href=\"http:\/\/www.adammosley.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/06.jpg\" data-group=\"group4\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-2891\" src=\"http:\/\/www.adammosley.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/06-300x168.jpg\" alt=\"teams\" width=\"300\" height=\"168\" border=\"0\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<h6 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">WHAT THEY SAY<\/span><\/h6>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><em>I\u2019m so excited about your team coming!<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<h6 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">WHAT THEY WANT TO SAY<\/span><\/h6>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Bless your heart. You think you\u2019re doing me a favor. Thirty people show up at my door and expect me to provide transportation, food, lodging, sight-seeing, and a list of service projects a mile long. You\u2019re here to \u201chelp.\u201d The thing is, the other 51 weeks out of the year, we manage to do what needs to be done here just fine. That is, except for the time we spend working on the logistics for your team. You come over and want to help build a fence, when I can hire local workers to build a fence for a tiny fraction of what you spent to come here. I appreciate your desire to help, and I even love having visitors, but consider the size and expectations of your group before you plan your trip. A team of 3 or 4 highly skilled people is much more valuable to our ministry than a gaggle of mission tourists.<\/span><\/p>\n<h4 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">7. \u201cGOING HOME\u201d IS A LOT OF WORK.<\/span><\/h4>\n<p class=\"p1\"><a class=\"lightbox\" href=\"http:\/\/www.adammosley.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/07.jpg\" data-group=\"group4\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-2892\" src=\"http:\/\/www.adammosley.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/07-300x168.jpg\" alt=\"going-home\" width=\"300\" height=\"168\" border=\"0\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<h6 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">WHAT THEY SAY<\/span><\/h6>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><em>It\u2019s great to be back home.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<h6 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">WHAT THEY WANT TO SAY<\/span><\/h6>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Please understand, I now have two homes. When I<span id=\"43d77a14-e002-421a-91d8-05c653f3e9a6\" class=\"GINGER_SOFTWARE_mark\">\u2019m<\/span>\u00a0at one, I\u2019m away from the other, and there is a lot of emotion involved in that. On top of that, my life is absolutely\u00a0<em>crazy<\/em>\u00a0when I go \u201chome.\u201d I have to see relatives and friends, visit with partner churches, and take care of any number of issues that have arisen with my health, my electronic devices, and my government paperwork. Whether it\u2019s a few weeks or a few months, I spend my time living out of suitcases and hustling from one appointment to the next. Is it good to be home? Sure. But when I get on that plane to go to my\u00a0<em>other<\/em>\u00a0home, I breathe a sigh of relief that life is almost back to \u201cnormal.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<h4 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">8. IT\u2019S EASY FOR GOD TO TAKE A BACK SEAT IN THEIR LIFE.<\/span><\/h4>\n<p class=\"p1\"><a class=\"lightbox\" href=\"http:\/\/www.adammosley.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/08.jpg\" data-group=\"group4\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-2893\" src=\"http:\/\/www.adammosley.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/08-300x168.jpg\" alt=\"church\" width=\"300\" height=\"168\" border=\"0\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<h6 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">WHAT THEY SAY<\/span><\/h6>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><em>I\u2019m not very good at self-care.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<h6 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">WHAT THEY WANT TO SAY<\/span><\/h6>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Let\u2019s face it, I\u2019m no saint. I\u2019m not any more spiritual than you are. I don\u2019t start my day with three hours of devotional reading and prayer. I typically just get up and get to work. And there is a\u00a0<em>lot<\/em>\u00a0of work to be done. In fact, there is so much need here that it\u2019s really easy to become so focused on doing\u00a0<em>things for God<\/em>\u00a0that I lose sight of\u00a0<em>God himself<\/em>. In pursuing my calling, I<span id=\"aea4984c-1773-46c4-88f1-444f270b1819\" class=\"GINGER_SOFTWARE_mark\">\u2019ve somehow forgotten<\/span>\u00a0about the\u00a0<em>caller<\/em>. My spiritual life is almost nonexistent, other than the occasional desperate cry of \u201cWhy God?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<h4 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">9. IT\u2019S HARD TO TRUST PEOPLE.<\/span><\/h4>\n<p><a class=\"lightbox\" href=\"http:\/\/www.adammosley.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/09.jpg\" data-group=\"group4\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-2895\" src=\"http:\/\/www.adammosley.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/09-300x168.jpg\" alt=\"trust\" width=\"300\" height=\"168\" border=\"0\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<h6 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">WHAT THEY SAY<\/span><\/h6>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><em>I\u2019m just looking for some good strategic partners.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<h6 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">WHAT THEY WANT TO SAY<\/span><\/h6>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">There are good people here, there really are. But I have seen the worst of humanity in my work here \u2013 much of it from people I worked with and trusted. Other missionaries and pastors can be the worst. Just when you think you know someone, they stab you in the back, the front, and both sides. I\u2019ve gotten\u00a0<span id=\"985a06a0-7fde-4949-baf4-eb10e57cc9c5\" class=\"GINGER_SOFTWARE_mark\">to where I simply<\/span>\u00a0don\u2019t trust anyone. My guard is up, and it\u2019s not coming down. I refuse to get burned again. If that means I have to do everything myself, then so be it.<\/span><\/p>\n<h4 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">10. THEY ARE LONELY.<\/span><\/h4>\n<p><a class=\"lightbox\" href=\"http:\/\/www.adammosley.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/10.jpg\" data-group=\"group4\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-2896\" src=\"http:\/\/www.adammosley.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/10-300x168.jpg\" alt=\"lonely\" width=\"300\" height=\"168\" border=\"0\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<h6 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">WHAT THEY SAY<\/span><\/h6>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><em>I\u2019m OK \u2013 just really busy with the ministry.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<h6 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">WHAT THEY WANT TO SAY<\/span><\/h6>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Having neglected my relationship with God, and given up on people entirely, I\u2019m left with just me. I hate it. I want to quit. I have dreams about what my life would be like if I went back to my old home town, to my old church, and my old friends. I could get a normal job earning a salary \u2013 with healthcare and\u00a0<em>paid vacation<\/em>. I could shop and eat at normal places. Most of all, I could have normal relationships. But here? I\u2019m all alone. I don\u2019t know if there\u2019s anyone like me here, and I\u00a0<em>know<\/em>\u00a0no one back home understands. I want to feel wanted, invited, and loved. I want someone to pour into me the way I\u2019m pouring into others.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][\/et_pb_section]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Being a missionary is hard work. Everybody knows that. But the things we think of as the hard parts \u2013 lack of modern amenities, exposure to disease, and the like \u2013 only begin to scratch the surface of the difficulties of real missionary life. 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